Back in 2009, when I searched the Internet for RA blogs, hoping to discover a community of people who shared this disease with me, The Seated View was one of the first I found.
I was hooked instantly.
Lene Andersen is natural writer, one of those magical scribblers who can make you feel treasured , cozy and comfortable in just a few sentences. You settle right down to read, and before you know it you’re there with her in Toronto, shaking your head over how her windows freeze shut in the winter, and about how Spring melts the ice and softens the air. You grin at her cat’s goofy antics, share in the joy she feels for her family, marvel at the beautiful photographs she takes and … well, you catch my drift. Lene makes you feel like a friend.
But she also writes about rheumatoid arthritis, the proverbial elephant in the room.
Lene doesn’t sugarcoat what she writes about her RA—or the facts about RA, period. She writes about it calmly, with open eyes. When she says that starting one of the biologic DMARDs saved her life, she isn’t exaggerating. She means exactly that: the medication saved her life. When she writes about the physical and mental pain RA causes, you get exactly what she’s talking about. Her description fits like a glove.
And so does her empathy. When I learned that she was writing a book about RA, I was intrigued. When she announced that it had been published, first as an e-book and then later, as a paperback, I was delighted. I bought the Kindle version of “Your Life with Rheumatoid Arthritis: Tools for Managing Treatment, Side-Effects and Pain” the same day.
And you know what? It’s good. Really good.
I’ll be posting my review of “Your Life with Rheumatoid Arthritis” soon. But first, I’d like to share my recent e-mail interview with its author, Lene Andersen.
Wren: First, a quick bio: Where were you born? When did your family move to Canada?
Lene: I was born in Denmark and lived there for the first almost-20 years of my life. At that time, my father had been working for the Canadian branch of the Danish company for a few years and my parents decided they would like to actually live in the same country (I know… How radical). The whole family moved to Canada for what was supposed to be a year or two. Thirty-one years later, I’m still here.
Wren: Having a disability makes the everyday logistics of attending college and going to school a real challenge. How did you manage it?
Lene: Juggling parallel transit with homework and RA-related fatigue and pain was a real challenge. By the time I went to graduate school, I finally figured out that I didn’t have to do things the same way and on the same time line as everyone else. I did my Masters degree part-time and it was a tremendous help. I had more energy, could focus better on homework and assignments and got better grades.
Wren: What career did you choose? (and “Why?” again…)
Lene: I’ve wanted to be a writer ever since I knew what one was. However, my practical side insisted on a “real” day job. For a long time, my career goal was to help teens with chronic illnesses or disabilities, so I majored in psychology and did my Masters in social work. Halfway through the latter, I discovered policy development and realized that I was much better suited for that. I ended up working in employment equity and human rights and loved every minute of it. That is, until the employment equity law was repealed by a new provincial government and I lost my job.
Wren: What do you do today, work-and-career-wise?
Lene: I’ve come full circle and returned to my lifelong dream of being a writer. I had a huge RA flare in 2004 and came very close to losing my life. Thanks to the Biologics, I got a second chance. You can’t waste a gift like that, so I decided to live more authentically. And that meant being serious about writing.
Wren: Another big challenge: writing a book. How did you do it?
Lene: There’s a wonderful joke that sums it up perfectly:
Q: “how do you eat an elephant?”
A: “one bite at a time.”
Writing a book is very much like that. You show up every day, you write one bit at a time and if you keep doing that, sooner or later, you’ll have a book. It takes discipline and perseverance and being really stubborn about your goal. That will get you in front of the computer during the periods where it’s a mindnumbing slog. Even during the gazillionth rewrite when I’m sick of my own words, there’s nothing else I’d rather do.
Wren: Seems like all of us with RA can name a “worst” experience with the disease. What was yours?
Lene: The 2004 flare. I thought I was going to lose my life, it felt like I had terminal arthritis. I reached a point where I gave myself another six months to find a solution and if I didn’t, it would be okay to kill myself. It wasn’t that I wanted to die, it was because the pain was unbearable. Luckily, I started a biologic and everything got better.
Wren: RA often causes depression. Have you ever been depressed?
Lene: I’ve been depressed on and off for years. Growing up with a chronic illness and disability wasn’t easy. I’ve struggled with finding meaning in it, but didn’t have much luck for a long time.
Wren: How did you recover from depression?
Lene: I’ve seen several counselors in my “career” with RA, starting at age 18. The most helpful approach was cognitive behavioral therapy, because it helped me think differently about my disease and how I live with it. But more than that, it was recovering from my 2004 flare that changed my life. Coming that close to losing everything has given me a different perspective and I haven’t been depressed since. No matter what happens, I have an awareness that nine years ago, I truly believed I wouldn’t be here past the summer of 2005. That puts everything in perspective. I’m living a miracle every day and it’s done wonders for my ability to cope. I also work very hard to focus on what I have, instead of what I don’t have. Practicing gratitude has been key for me.
Wren: Any suggestions on how people can deal with RA-related depression?
Lene: One of the things I realized when I was seeing my last counselor in the early 2000’s was that sometimes depression is because your disease isn’t well controlled. Although I’m a big fan of counseling, especially cognitive behavioral therapy, there are times when the appropriate expert is not a psychologist, but a rheumatologist. Antidepressants can be an excellent tool to helping you cope better, but so can effective RA medication. If your RA is well-managed, it’s a lot easier to find joy in life.
Mindfulness can also be tremendously useful. Practicing being in the moment makes it easier to see all the things about life that are still wonderful. There’s a profound quote in Mindfulness for Beginners by Jon Kabat-Zinn about living with a chronic or serious illness. He says that as long as you are still alive, “there is more right with you then there is wrong with you.” That’s a terrific bit of perspective.
Wren: Special diets and other alternative “remedies” for RA are as popular today as they ever were. Have you tried any alternative remedies? Did they work?
Lene: I tried acupuncture for the first time when I was 13 and have been a huge fan of it since. For years, acupuncture and shiatsu massage were essential parts of my pain management toolbox. I’ve never adhered to any particular diet. When I was a child, a rheumatologist told me that becoming vegetarian might help my symptoms. I told him that my life was already crappy enough and I had no intention of giving up steak. That said, before I found a medication that worked for me, I did notice that certain foods — tomatoes, fried foods, sugar — exacerbated my symptoms, so I tried to steer clear of them.
Wren: The daily small aches, stiffness and pain of RA can be almost as frustrating as big flares. How do you get through each day with them?
Lene: I take meds on a schedule, which allows me to stay ahead in the race against the pain. I also rest for 1.5-2 hours every afternoon. When I got tired of people telling me how nice it must be to nap every day, I changed the name to Mandatory Rest Period. This emphasizes that it’s an essential part of managing my pain, rather than an indulgence. I’ve also developed really effective mental filters to block out a fair bit of my pain. I think that’s something all of us do. When you live with chronic pain, you learn to ignore it until it really starts interfering with your ability to get things done.
Wren: You’re a vocal advocate for accessible design. Was there any one situation that prompted you to speak out?
Lene: I started using a wheelchair when I was 16 and very quickly became aware of the extra planning and additional steps involved when you travel seated. There was a difference, though, between being aware of barriers and the feeling you get when you experience discrimination. I remember flying somewhere in my early twenties, using a particular airline for the first time. I’d flown several times before, but this was the first time an airline required a letter from my doctor stating it was OK for me to travel. Needing a doctor’s note to go on vacation just because I used a wheelchair was my first experience of discrimination. No one else needed a doctor’s note. Young as I was, I still knew it was wrong that a disabled person had to provide documentation, but someone else with an invisible illness, such as a heart condition, didn’t. Years later, I worked in human rights and became much more familiar with the laws against such treatment. Combining my personal experience with discrimination with my knowledge of legal rights was a very empowering experience.
Your Life with Rheumatoid Arthritis: Tools for Managing Treatment, Side Effects and Pain is available as an e-book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, iBooks and Kobo Books. The paperback is available on Amazon.
For further information, visit the book’s website.
And hey! Don’t miss Lene’s personal blog, “The Seated View. “
Great interview! I sooo need to read this book! So many things she says I have experienced myself, including going to college for social work and then hitting a bump in the road and becoming something else. -(In my case it was a phlebotomist/lab assistant). It’s always nice to connect with other people who have rheumatoid arthritis. And p.s. I would punch someone if they said to me, “Must be nice to take a nap in the afternoon…” Must be nice to wake up in the morning without feeling like a stiff pretzel, and so many other things! Uggh!
y’know… I never thought of turning it around like that! Thanks for the suggestions – I’ll be sure to try it out! 😉
LOL! Fantastic 🙂 I’m happy to provide you with snarky comments for rude people who say ignorant things! 🙂
I really enjoy Lene’s blog – when I found it I sat down and read the lot, from Day 1! I wish I could force a load of people I know with PMR to read it because it puts our pain into perspective – so many don’t actually get that taking the pred doesn’t mean you don’t have to manage your life as well. When we do that we have an almost normal life with just a low level of pain – for you with RA that must be a dream.
did you really read the whole thing? Aw, that’s so sweet! Thanks so much!
Love the interview and will be purchasing the book. I will also become a new follower of her blog. I started a biologic (Remicade) in September and am yet to say it’s made a significant difference in my pain and stiffness. I’m encouraged by my Rheum ‘team’ to give it more time. I do, however, find it’s elevated my energy a bit…and my mood. For that I’m thankful. I find Lene’s experience in managing life, not just pain…to be inspiring. Thank you for posting!
The increase in energy is often the first sign the medication is working. Keeping my fingers crossed it will kick in! And thanks so much for your beautiful comment.
I love Lene’s blog and I loved this interview. Thanks for giving her (and her book) some richly deserved attention.
thanks so much for your lovely comment.
I adore you Lene Andersen!! I found you through the group squeaky joints, got the e book and it changed my life about living with my RA. Seriously. When I read it I was still in denial about so many things regarding my illness. Every day when I read your blog or enjoy your photographs I’m uplifted out of the darkness of my pain. I don’t think you’ll ever know how many lives you’ve really touched! Thank you for being you Lene. And thank you for the interview!
Thank you so much, Mary. Your comment really touched me. I appreciate every word
Thank you for this wonderful post, Wren. She is an inspiration. I cannot imagine starting out with JRA. I will definitely by buying her book.
that’s so nice. Thanks very much for your comment!
Great interview and a great book. Lene adds so much to this community. Thanks for sharing her with us Wren. I hope all is well with you and The Dragon. I’ve been AWOL on blogs lately. How is your mom?
Thanks so much for saying that, Cathy!
This is a great interview that puts the spotlight on Lene – the person who is so much more than her disease. Although our disease shapes us, it is so important to not let it control us.
Wren, thank you for asking the questions that demonstrate that this is how Lene chooses to live her life.
you’re making me blush, darlink! But seriously, it’s so important to realize that there is so much more than RA to your life. Sure, it’s a struggle at times, but if you focus only on that one thing, you miss out on everything else.
Got yo love Lene. She’s an inspiration to all of us!
aw, shucks. Thanks, Andrew! 😉
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