It’s a pretty morning here in the Northern California foothills. Last week included temperatures that soared, for two blistering days, into the triple digits, but it’s a soft, sweet 75 degrees right now. All clear sun and cool shadows. The scent from the oranges in the basket on the counter drifts lazily around the room. The scent fits.
As I fill a pot full of cold water for our morning coffee, I look out the kitchen window and see, in
the dappled garden next to the spa house, a close-knit little family of skunks. They’re busy foraging in the soft, cocoa soil for goodies. Are grubs tasty? To skunks, maybe.
Yes, I said skunks. A momma and three nearly grown kits. From my vantage point, they’re a blob of furry black with four brilliant white stripes. I’ve seen them several times now, usually about mid-morning. I think they live underneath the spa house. Each time the skunklings have grown a little bit bigger. I wonder if they’ll share the home territory with Momma once they’re adults. And will she have more kits later this summer? If she does, where will we put all the skunks?
I haven’t written here much lately; in fact, I can’t believe my last post was at the end of May. I’ll try to write more often in the future, but for now, I’ll just catch you up on the latest.
Back in April I took a couple of week-long prednisone tapers, separated by about two weeks. The idea was to finally beat the dull, constant bursitis hip pain I’d been having for months and months. After a delay of several days, the second taper actually worked. My pain lessened and lessened, and finally, was pretty much gone. Halleluiah! It was so nice to be able to move, walk, sit and sleep without pain.
May was pain-free and terrific. The first couple of weeks in June were, too. But last week the bursitis pain returned, along with some amped-up rheuma pain in my hands and, I think, my right hip. The two types of pain are quite different. This new pain, while only moderate, felt like it was deep inside the hip-joint, knife-sharp and un-ignorable. It stayed around for a day and then, thank goodness, disappeared. In the meantime, the renewed bursitis pain continued unbated: a low to medium-severe, diffused ache that runs along the outsides of both hips from seat to knees. The right side generally aches more intensely than the left.
At night, it keeps me wakeful and rolling from one side to the other, trying to find a comfortable position. The nortryptaline my rheumatologist prescribed helps, but not consistently. Asking for a higher dose or a different type of sleep aid is on my list of things to ask him about when I see him again next month.
I’m also going to tell him about the more painful flares I’ve been having in my hands lately. Along with the continuous, low-level soreness (which is mainly just annoying) I’ve had several bouts of deep, sharp pain focused in my right thumb, pointer and pinky fingers. It’s pain that’s instantly reminiscent of The Old Days, when my rheuma was horribly active and severe. Fortunately, these flares have been relatively brief, the longest lasting about 12 hours. In The Old Days, the bad flares would last anywhere from 24 hours to four days. I never knew what to expect.
So, ol’ Wren is a bit gimpy right now. But my mood is sunny. Last week Mom and I went to the local retail outlets, where I’d discovered there was a Merrell* store. The company makes incredibly comfortable shoes; I’d read about their “barefoot” shoes on Cathy’s blog, The Life and Adventures of Catepoo. Her posts piqued my interest, not because I want to walk “barefoot,” but because the shoes just sounded so good for rheuma-feet. Like most of you, I can’t wear most shoes, and pretty shoes with heels are out of the question. As a result, I have a few pairs of practical, comfortable and plain shoes that I wear nearly year-round. Most of them are at least three years old; the oldest top 10 years. Pathetic, eh?
So, the Merrell outlet. Now, I have to say, these are not “beautiful” shoes. They’re made with people who drive hybrids, wear eco-friendly clothes and shop at Whole Foods in mind. Fit, slim, well-paid thirty-somethings (and boomers, of course) of both genders who hike on the weekends in modified baseball caps and perspiration-wicking cargo shorts, their daypacks full of Vitamin Water and maybe a doobie or two tucked in amongst the trail mix and dark chocolate squares. So, not actually beautiful, maybe, but Merrell’s shoes are still pretty good-looking. What I was hoping for was a pair of presentable new shoes that were light, cool for summer, and above all, wearable on feet that hurt in almost any shoe that’s even a little bit attractive.
To my total delight (thanks, Cathy, for the tip!) I found two pairs of Merrells that work for me. Neither were their “barefoot” shoes, but no matter. One is a pair of sandals; the other a pair of grippy-soled Mary Janes with mesh uppers, good for extended walking and standing. Both fasten easily (and adjustably) with Velcro, and both can be worn for everyday or, in a pinch, with clothes that are a little nicer for the occasional evening out, as long as it’s not at a really fancy place.
And wow, are they comfortable. The fit is so good, and the shoes so nicely made, and with such excellent arch support and firm, cushioned (yet lightweight) soles, that it’s easy to forget they’re even on your feet. If that sounds odd, keep in mind that often, with rheumatoid arthritis, forgetting your fickle, painful feet is impossible. Most shoes do hurt them in one way or another.
The one drawback: Even purchased at their outlet store, Merrells are pricey shoes. The sandals were $90; the Mary Janes, $80. Mom (that sweet lady) bought me the sandals. I just couldn’t afford both pairs at once. “Call it an early birthday present,” she said.
These two pairs of new shoes will get me through the hot summer ahead. I hope to go back to the outlet in October and get another pair or two for winter wear.
In other news, we just celebrated my daughter’s 30th birthday; I’ve lost a total of 23 pounds; Mom and I are growing a tomato plant on the back deck that’s thriving and already has one small green tomato on it; Mom is feeling much better most of the time, but has become very forgetful so that I feel uncomfortable leaving her alone for more than a day at a time; and back home in Camino, Mr Wren has added another large dog to the mix (Finny, Shadow and now, Jake). I imagine the chaos and am grateful that I’m here instead of there for the time being.
That’s enough updating for now, I think. Thanks for reading. I’ll be sure to post again soon.
*Merrell is not paying or in any fashion rewarding me for promoting their shoes on my blog. I just want to pass along a really good find to people of both genders who, like me, search for shoes they can wear comfortably on feet made painful and sensitive by arthritis.
I was thinking of you the other day and wondering what you might be up to, given the long silence. Glad to hear your spirits are up, even if the bursitis pain is back (BOO!!). Thanks for the tip about the shoes, too. You’re right – finding shoes is a nightmare sometimes. It’s worth it to pay the extra money (when I have it) to get something that won’t leave me ready to die at the end of the day!
Sorry for all the ups and downs of the ra lately. Love the new shoes! I like the second pair better (for me of course). The first has the toe thing which for me is a big no no! Toes tend to go this way and that way…isn’t that kids song? Anyway, I really enjoyed your post today and I am looking forward to see how you manage with this skunk family lurking about. We had one in our back yard years ago that my hubby ran into late one night. I say no more. Took tons of tomato juice to get rid of the smell from him and his briefcase and clothes were a toss! They can be cute from a distance but sure do give off a scent 🙂
Wren, I am glad the Merrells worked and even though they are pricey, they last. I have been wearing the same boots for almost five years now and they are still in good shape. These shoes hold up.
It sounds like things are going well with your mom. I am glad she is feeling up to getting out and doing some fun things. Happy birthday to your daughter. 23 pounds!!!! Wowzie. That is excellent.
I hope the pains get better and I am so glad to read your catch up post. You are missed when you are away.
Welcome back – I’ve been checking in regularly and missed you!
Always remember: there are 2 things that you should not skimp on, your bed and your shoes. Why? Because if you aren’t in one you are in the other!
I so know where you are coming from – I have a really attractive pair of sandals that I can wear for a reasonable amount of time, but they are 20 years old and I can’t find a replacement. You could wear these to a fancy “do” (in my opinion) but the only white/light coloured ones I can find here so far are a bit clumpy to put it mildly. I have a very high instep so many shoes just won’t fit over it – I got a super comfy pair a few weeks ago where the shop also did repairs so they added extra velcro to the straps, not quite perfect as the workman didn’t see my feet in the sandal but near enough. I don’t understand why “healthy” shoes can’t also be pretty ones. I like the one you show except I can’t bear things round my toes – or perhaps I need to try harder 😉
Hope the hurty bits go away soon
So glad to hear from you again, Wren! I’m glad there has been lots of good news. As for the bad, well, I’ll put a jinx on it and try to make it go away for you! 🙂 L
Merrell’s, Love them. I started out with their hiking boots and now they are just about the only shoes and sandals I buy. Expensive yes but they last a long time.
Congratulations on the 23 lbs!! Hope they can settle your RA flare and hip trouble soon.
Glad to have have you back. We miss you when your gone.
Sooo good to hear from you at last! Your life is full right now trying to take care of mom and yourself too. Keep hanging in there. Hopefully doc will have something else up his sleeve this time for you. Keeping you in heart and mind.
Sending Drücker! Glad to read what you’ve been up to. And the skunklings!! Ach, wie cute!
I was a little worried when you went silent so long!
I’ll have to think about a pair of Merrells (though I think not the barefoots, as I am never, ever supposed to be barefoot, even around the house). The fiance got offered a great job with unexpectedly high pay, so I can theoretically afford them, I just have to justify it to myself. Then again, the last time I bought shoes, it included a $100 pair of Supremes.
Something both comfortable and attractive would be lovely. My Supremes, while they are the most comfortable thing that has ever touched my feet, are kind of…clunky.